Divorcing couples will be referred to mediation to sort out most disputes before they are allowed to use the courts, the government has announced. Justice Minister Jonathan Djanogly said mediation was “a quicker, cheaper and more amicable alternative” to the over-worked family courts.

The measures for England and Wales, focused on child custody and financial disputes, come into force on 6 April. Domestic violence and child protection cases will still go to court.

Mr Djanogly said: “Nearly every time I ask someone if their stressful divorce battle through the courts was worth it, their answer is ‘no’.

“Mediation already helps thousands of legally aided people across England and Wales every year, but I am concerned those funding their own court actions are missing out on the benefits it can bring.

“Now everyone will have the opportunity to see if it could be a better solution than going straight to court.”

The minister told BBC Radio 4’s today programme statistics suggested that more than two-thirds of couples who took up mediation were “satisfied with the results”.

“It gives people the opportunity to take their own futures in their own hands.”

Under the change, anyone wanting to use the courts will have to undergo a compulsory mediation assessment session first, which could cost some couples up to £140.

If mediation is not a workable option, for example one party refuses to take part in it, the case can proceed to court.

However, the government is proposing to cut legal aid for many separating couples and that means that if they cannot mediate after their compulsory assessment, they will have to pay for legal advice and court representation.

Some lawyers have argued that will amount to a denial of access to justice.

And the Law Society, which represents solicitors in England and Wales, said it questioned whether mediation would always be an appropriate way to decide arguments.

President Linda Lee said: “As a matter of course any lawyer aims for an agreed solution through negotiation because going to court is stressful and expensive. This is not always possible and, in some cases, the court is the only appropriate way of resolving the problems.

“The government is creating a myth that mediation is a panacea in order to justify cuts to legal aid which will take areas such as this, where people desperately need advice out of scope.”

A Ministry of Justice spokesman said the courts should not get involved in varying parental contact days or other minor disputes.

The ministry said 137,000 divorce cases were dealt with in 2009, up by 16%.

The cost per client of mediation is £535, compared with £2,823 for court costs and the National Audit Office also found mediation was quicker – 110 days, compared with 435 days for court cases.

The move does not relate to Scotland or Northern Ireland.

Mediators Mark and John try to ease tensions between a gardener and her neighbour in St Neots, Cambridgeshire, who have a dispute over the height of some conifer trees by providing reasonable solution in the end which has been beneficial for both parties.

We’ve all had irritating neighbours. But as Next Door Nightmares shows, barking dogs and trumpet-learning children are the least of your worries.

From Excessive bongo playing to tall conifer trees, Mediators will either fill you with relief that you don’t have such inconsiderable neighbours or with hope that a reasonable solution is possible.

The New Program in SKY 1, Next Door Nightmare brings warring neighbours together in an attempt to resolve their ongoing feuds with mediators, many of whom are volunteers, sent in to try and defuse the situations. Their job is not without risk, those involved in long running disputes may be on the verge of violence and otherwise reasonable homeowners are driven to fury by their inconsiderable neighbours. Each episode follows the mediators as they attempt to reconcile rows – from the moment they’re called through the negotiation process and culminates in ace to face meeting between the quarrelling parties.